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Cancer changes things…

Cancer changes things

I don’t typically blog about my personal life but I felt led to do so…

On January 20th my life was forever changed… my mother was diagnosed with Breast Cancer. During the car ride back home, I put on my brave face and tried not to act differently; when in reality our lives were forever changed. Changed because this is something we need to fight aggressively. Changed because this will always be a concern with my mom; changed because my sister and I need to be sure to get breast exams much earlier as we might be a little more susceptible to breast cancer.

A thousand emotions ran through my mind. A thousand feelings ran through my body. Some strong, some weak, some anger, some pity, and some helplessness. If these are the feelings, I’m having I can only imagine how my mom was feeling. My sister and I went into protective mode immediately. It was the two of us that contacted family and friends to let them know. That was a challenge in and of itself as you can imagine the reactions.  In the midst of these calls I was trying to deal with my own feelings and get a hold of my emotions and here I am listening to others break down on the other end of the phone.  I was so not prepared for that, but like any child I’ll do whatever it takes to protect my mother.

I thank God that he has placed some of the best people around me. My future mother-in-law is a breast cancer survivor and she has been a great resource for us during this time. One can only speculate what it is like to battle breast cancer, but to have someone who can tell you things first hand gives you a leg up on the fight.  I’ve also spoken with other children (read friends) who have helped their mothers beat breast cancer. My friends are ready and willing to help me in any way that they can.  No greater shoulder for me to lean on than the man I’ve spent the last seven years of my life with. To have him understand how I feel via personal experience is the ultimate comfort. To know that when I get home I can take off my brave face and completely let my guard down and give in to my true feeling is so therapeutic.

My pity party is over and now I am ready to help my mother beat this. I’m looking forward to a future blog that says she is a SURVIVOR. Until then here are a few things you should know.

 

It is important to know that my mother had annual mammograms and this did not show up.  She discovered the lump herself during a self-exam.

Update 1/23/16: My mother had a single mastectomy {removal of breast} and had to do months of chemo therapy. It was a long hard road but we made it. My mother celebrated 5 years of being cancer free this month. It isn’t an easy road by any means, but the reward is greater than the struggle.

diagnosed with Breast Cancer

The last day of chemo therapy May 2012

I took my Mom to her chemo treatments, and on her last day I brought my four-month old daughter with us. It was a big moment and all three generations were present and accounted for.

BREAST CANCER FACTS:

Early Detection significantly increases your chances of surviving breast cancer.  Make sure you schedule the following:

  •  Self-Breast Exams
  • Clinical Breast Exam
  • Mammograms

The best way to fight breast cancer is to have a plan that helps you detect the disease in its early stages.
According to the National Cancer Institute:

  • Nearly 200,000 women will be diagnosed with breast cancer this year.
  • 1 in 8 women will be diagnosed with breast cancer during their lifetime.
  • Over 30% of women are diagnosed after breast cancer has spread beyond the localized stage.
  • When breast cancer is detected early (localized stage), the 5-year survival rate is 98%.

For more information, visit the National Cancer Institute

Have you experienced cancer with a parent or loved one? Chat with me in the comment below or FB, IG or Twitter.
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MimiCuteLips® started in 2010, it’s a place to come and share life experiences. Mimi is a lifestyle blogger, a mother of two, an Operations Manager by day, the business owner of From Mi To You and a naturalista. She blogs about life as she sees it, lives it, and loves it (or not)! The purpose of this blog is to share her voice. Like many others, she lives a life that requires her to wear multiple hats. From DIY projects, parenting, business adventures, love, travel recaps and more.

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  1. Cheromie

    MiMi,
    I am sorry to hear of this news. It will be TOUGH but you are strong and can handle it. My grandmother had cancer. Not breast cancer but ovarian cancer which if you don’t know is VERY hard to detect. Unfortunately for us when we found out she was already in stage four. It will take A LOT of family support and understanding but if you EVER need a friend to talk to or lean on I am here! I pray and wish your mom and the rest of your family all the strength, love and courage you will need to get through this…

  2. caramelnaps25

    Mimi I am praying for you and your entire family. I have a friend who is a breast cancer survivor. It has not always been easy, but it can be beat. I am helping her work through some additional challenges now, but with family, friends and faith God continues to win! In all that you do for your mom remember to take time for yourself to cry, pray and release (or whatever you need to do) so that you will not get sick in the process! Peace, prayers and blessings!

  3. Mimicutelips

    Thank you ladies for your prayers and well wishes. We will certainly take all that we can get.

  4. donna dorrane

    Mimi,

    Wow, I’m sorry to read this news. My prayers are with you and yours.

    donna dorrane

  5. BowieandUpperMarlboroRealtor

    Self exams are a must ladies!!!!

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