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Where is my purpose?

Hey Cuties,

I struggled all last week y’all. I wasn’t moved to write, I didn’t know what I wanted to talk about, and I was just not feeling it.  I’m constantly stressing over not knowing my purpose. I have amazing women around me and they are doing big things. This is by no means a competition but they are walking in their purpose. I’m jealous, not of their success because a victory for them is a victory for me. I’m jealous because they have figured out their purpose. I watched this awesome Periscope by Julian of Bold and Fearless all about Finding Your Purpose. The content was amazing, I took notes and I was still not feeling Bold and Fearless. WHAT IN THE WORLD!

how do i find my purpose

In the Scope Julian gave tips to find your purpose. One of the tips that stuck out at me was “People will tell you you’re good at this particular thing. People will come to you for it.” About eight years ago I sent an email to my friends and family asking them what they thought I was destined to do. I didn’t realize I’d been on this search for so long.  They came back with some expected things, one would think I’d have the answer by now. NOPE!

how do i find my purpose

These are all things that are true to me yet I still didn’t know my purpose. Maybe I’m looking at it too deep; maybe it’s not that serious. Julian said our purpose doesn’t have to be a Sister Teresa type of thing. I love doing so many things; I turned one into a business without intention. It was one of those things people said I was great at and so I decided to make it a business and see where it took me. I keep trying to quit this business and it won’t die. This couldn’t possibly be my passion right. It’s not something that I love so much I would do for free I tell you that.

I don’t know why I’m so fixated on knowing my purpose but I am. To the point that I feel a bit stagnate. WHAT IN THE WORLD. I’ve been struggling to write for two weeks and I’ve hardly posted to IG and FB.

how do i find my purpose

Have you figured out your purpose? How did you know? Chat with me in the comment section below or FBIG or Twitter.

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Mimi Green is the Lifestyle Media Correspondent and editor behind MimiCuteLips®. She is a mother of two and a girlfriend to one. You can find Mimi working media at your favorite events, traveling and trying out new adventures, or working on a dope DIY project.

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  1. Joanne T Ferguson

    I think a lot of people go through life wondering what their purpose it! If I can offer one piece of advice? Just let things unravel naturally and don’t overthink as one day your purpose WILL be revealed!

  2. Robin Rue (@massholemommy)

    I have absolutely no purpose in my blogging career LOL. I kind of just go with the flow, but that works for me so I am ok with it 🙂

  3. nadeen

    I am sure you will get your mojo back and find your purpose. All those things your family listed for you are things you have done and expressed on your blog! And from what I can tell you are an amazing mother. That is a great purpose to have!

  4. Annemarie LeBlanc

    I think I have found out my purpose in life the moment I gave birth to my children. I am on this earth as a steward to raise these precious gifts from God, that they grow up to be loving, responsible adults.

  5. Jeanette

    It is hard to figure out what is your purpose on this earth. I know I have struggled with it many times. My advise is sit back and let life run. It’s amazing how you can find what makes you happy that way.

  6. Megan Elford

    I spent so many years searching for my “destiny” or life’s purpose, until one day I realized that I was so busy searching, I had forgotten to live! We tend to forget that a job or career is intended to support our lives, not to BE our lives. Sometimes we find great fulfilment in our career, and sometimes we only find fulfilment in the fact that it pays the bills. Purpose is so much more diverse than it seems. To me, my purpose is to serve others when and where I can. If I’m able to use my personal interests and skills to do that, I find it very fulfilling (even when it’s unpaid!).

  7. Dawn McAlexander

    My purpose is whatever I want it to be. That sounds blunt, I know, but it’s the truth. I write about what I want to write about. If people don’t like it, then they don’t have to read it. I don’t think it pays to dwell on finding a purpose. I think you go with what you know or feel and let it all come out of you. That’s what I think the secret to successful blogging really is. Don’t be afraid to have an opinion, and don’t be afraid to share it. Above all, don’t be afraid to stand up in support of that opinion.

  8. Tanay

    Purpose is like a recurring theme around blog-world lately. I agree I’m jealous for the same reasons. We still have plenty of time though 🙂

  9. Stacie @ Divine Lifestyle

    Great post. It can be difficult to find your purpose. Often times, we don’t figure out what our real purpose in life is for a really long time.

  10. Amber

    Oh, girl…we’ve all been there! Or at least I know I have! Don’t feel like there’s a deadline for you to discover what your purpose is. It quiet and still and let it come to you as you continue pursuing the things that inspire you and make you happy. It likely is staring you right in the face! You have many talents and I trust that they will lead you down a path of knowing what you were put here on earth to do!

  11. Emerald

    Hi Mimi! Thank you for being so transparent in your post, love. Purpose is something that unfolds as you live life. I have prayed many times and asked God to reveal my purpose and felt lost when the answer was not apparent. I know that I’m destined to write….I figure that’s apart of my purpose. 🙂

  12. Joseph

    I agree with your article and I also believe that your passion and purpose might not be of the same thing. I am passionate about a lot of things, but I feel my purpose in life can change from decade to decade.

  13. Jenn

    What an interesting post. I have often wonder what my purpose is too. All my life I have wanted to have babies. Now I think I’m done that stage of my life. I know that my kids still need me, but as they grow, I feel less needed and wonder what my purpose was.

  14. Alli

    One day I looked deep within myself and realized that writing is my passion so I started a blog. I always have around 75 drafts. Some of them may never see the light of day, but I’m doing what I love. Hang in there, girl, and go with what you love. It may be more than one thing, too. There are several things I’m passionate about. When you find your passion, you’ll find your purpose. ( that’s my motto)

  15. Diana Villa

    I always bring my purse with me but it nothing interesting about it lol 😛 Thanks for the great post! 😀

  16. Liz Mays

    I think these are some of the same reasons why so many people change their majors in college multiple times. It’s a difficult question!

  17. Kristin

    I honestly believe we have all been here at some point in our life. You will know when you find it. Thank you for Sharing.

  18. Shelley Zurek

    I do know my purpose and I have known it for a long time. It is to obey God and serve him and answer to his will everyday. If I do that, the direction just all becomes so clear. If you are a believer, you just need to follow that advice. It’s very freeing.

  19. rika agustini

    i am still struggling ! I think about it everyday, every night. I just go with the flow. No big plans , just keep trying and learning

  20. Tracy @ Ascending Butterfly

    I think it’s going to be a big ole trick in the end and we find out, our ‘purpose’ was just to enjoy the journey along the way. As a writer, I find when I am getting ‘da block’ it’s because I’ve been meeting more deadlines than I have living. And anyone who tells you they don’t have those slumps is just plain full of $hit. Step away from what you are doing. Go do nothing related to how you earn your living. Change scenery, stay away from what you know and go explore something you don’t. If museums are not normally your thing, find an exhibit that interests you and go see it. Spend a day at the beach with a trashy novel and your toes in the sand. If you don’t ‘do you’ for a bit, the slump will only last longer. I have changed career paths more than a dozen times, nothing wrong with it. We are sometimes at a crossroad in life when we feel that way or sometimes it’s a spiritual yearning and because we can’t name it we automatically translate it to ‘purpose’, praying that you find your fresh breeze of release to lighten to your burdens/load and lift your spirits.

  21. Ourfamilyworld

    For some people, finding your purpose in life can be tough, but there are those who knew right away. Don’t rush yourself because it will come whether you like it or not.

  22. mykidsguide

    I just do what I wanted to do and it works for me. Others may know what their purpose in life is right away, while it may take a while for some.

  23. Chubskulit Rose

    Love your handwriting, it’s very neat! It’s great to jopt down your goals like this, it gives you direction. Figuring out your purpose in life is not always easy.

  24. Alyssa C

    This is a great post, I always think about my purpose. I have a lot of hobbies but I take non serious enough. Like I love being behind the camera and I think of photography as a passion but I have my what ifs. I think it’s time I look more into it.

  25. Rebecca Swenor

    I have been told that some of us never find our purpose. This is my thought on it though, maybe some of us never find our purpose because we are looking to hard for it. Just maybe we all have the purpose of being here to be our best and show others how to do the same. Thanks for sharing.

  26. Nina Say

    I completely understand being in this situation, it is completely discomforting. I think you’re doing amazing in the creativity department, though, even if it may not feel that way.

  27. Lynndee

    I do wonder sometimes what my purpose in life is, but I would like to believe it is to raise my son and let him be the man that he wanted to be.

  28. Rosey

    I’m 45 and still have no idea what my purpose is…but I’m ok with it for now. I will start looking again though soon. 🙂

  29. Michelle @ Dishes and Dust Bunnies

    I totally get how you feel. Sometimes it can take a while to find out what your purpose in life is and I’m still trying to figure out mine as well.

  30. Uplifting Families

    List out all of the things that you are passionate about. Once you have a list, take some time to reflect on the things that you wrote down. Hopefully, this will help you find your purpose. Remember to grow means to take on new risks. You never know what awaits you. 🙂

  31. CourtneyLynne

    Hehehe I have no clue what my purpose in life is! Maybe one day I will Figure it out, but in the meantime I’m just going to enjoy what is 😉

  32. Winter White

    I really relate to what you’re saying here. I actually read a book that helped me narrow down my purpose and my passions. The book was called “The Passion Test”. It talked about how to find your passion and gave some really great exercises to help you narrow them down. It really helped me understand myself and what drives me. I think to know what our purpose is we have to know what drives us and the only way to do that is to discover your passions.

  33. Chrystal | YUM eating

    I have been trying to figure out my purpose for a few years. Once I graduated with my MBA, things didn’t really go in the direction I wanted them to. This is a really inspiring post.

  34. Joanna

    I’m in the same boat. Not really sure what my purpose is, but I do know what I’m good at. In time, I’ll figure it out.

  35. Adanna

    Girl, you will discover it the moment you stop stressing. I can guarantee you that. Also, go read The Alchemist it’s going to really help you. I LOVE Julian’s brand Bold and Fearless and I can see why she had that effect on you. I caught one of her Periscopes and it was by far one of the best I’ve seen.

  36. HilLesha

    I have struggled with this in the past. However, I mostly go with the flow these days.

  37. Christine @MomsNCharge

    Hey lady! I love this post and your transparency. I started doing scopes about purpose as well, and actually going through the book The Purpose Driven Life. Have you read it and gone through the exercises in there yet? I do think that sometimes it’s right in front of us but we don’t see it because it comes to us so easily/naturally.

  38. Krystal

    I think my purpose changes with the seasons. Sometimes I’m really strong at writing, other times I’m good at photography. They are all related though.

  39. Erin

    I have those days sometimes. I think everyone does! But that’s what life is about, right? Finding our purpose!

  40. Patranila

    It sounds to me like you are perhaps trying a little too hard and seeking answers outside of yourself. I doubt you’ll find what you’re looking for by asking others. I doubt you’ll find it by looking to others. There’s a reason you weren’t feeling bold and fearless. That’s not your thing, it’s not a lot of peoples’ thing. I think finding these answers is entirely and exclusively rooted in asking yourself what it is you really, really love and what you really, really want. No one else can answer that for you and most people can’t even point you in the right direction.

    Ask yourself the questions and be patient with yourself. Everyone doesn’t find their purpose early in life. Louise Hay didn’t write her first book until she was 65 and look at what she’s built since then.

  41. Katie

    I think this a struggle we all face at some point. I often deal with this….like I am searching for that one thing that I am so confident about.

  42. LaShawn

    It can be hard to define what your purpose is. I’m in my late 30s now, and sometimes I still struggle to figure out exactly what that purpose is! But there is no time limit on finding your purpose! You WILL find it!

  43. T. Espinoza

    GIRL! Get outta my head. When I tell you I’ve been having the same struggle… It’s especially hard for me to see so many people around me who just seem to “get it” when I don’t. I pray that you gain some clarity on your calling sis.

  44. MJ

    Hugs lady. Sometimes it just happens that you have to pause and reflect. These little breaks usually mean a breakthrough is on the way. Stand strong and be ready for yur next season.

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  46. Carissa

    Love this Post! I feel like sometimes I find myself searching for the same thing. But then you have people pop in and tell you something about yourself, and help you find that purpose you are searching for. That last sentence may be confusing… this is my ahhh haaa moment…so I love blogging and I did two of those mentor programs and they were about a year apart and once they were done both mentors told me my powerful post were the ones about marriage and my family…while Im trying to do EVERYTHING else in blogging Im already walking in my purpose! What confirmed it was when my pastor who doesnt read my blog asked us to do a marriage ministry…I said OK Carissa there it is again, just walk in it! So try to see the similarities in what others are saying about you and go from there, you could already be “walking in it”

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