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WHERE ARE THE PARENTS OF ADOLESCENT KIDS SUPPORT GROUP?

Hey Cuties,

How was the weekend? I spent my Saturday running around with Nori. She has quite the social calendar now, how did we get here? She had her first birthday party invite from daycare.  It had a nature theme, but she was NOT for touching the animals. I did touch the chinchilla, it was so cute. Other than talking our heads off toddler parenting is chill right now.  That older one… yeah well…

Everyone is all goo-goo ga-ga over babies. I mean I get it. They smell amazing and they defy nature and grew inside your gut all magical and what not. Everything they do is freaking cute and you eat, sleep, well not sleep because your probably aren’t getting much but their cuteness makes up for it. But everyone loves babies, everyone supports a new Mom and that is great they need it but WHAT ABOUT ME?

Now your cute baby is a different kind of cute and not cute as they become toddler. They are all disrespectful and what not. You know they throw cups and themselves on the floor because your turned from Sprout after watching it for the last six hours totally damaging their brains and thus turning them into the jerk kid that is Caillou. Despite all of that the kids are still cute when they try to dress themselves and do a bang up job. They also still speak a bit funny and that is cute. You get with other parents for cute play dates and support but WHAT ABOUT ME?

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 Now this toddler has learned to pee and poop on their own. Your male child is finally peeing in the toilet, who am I kidding men male children never just keep pee in the toilet. They are off to school and they have learned to read and all of that. Still mostly cute because they love school, they are great students and you can still help them with homework. You know because they aren’t doing college level work in 3rd grade yet so you actually know how to do it. You know the PTA and hang out with other parents for birthday parties and girl scouts and what not, great but WHAT ABOUT ME?

In walks the total asshole kid, they range in age from about 9 to 14. They stink; there have grown hair in places that make you puke. They think they know everything yet have no real life experience. Farting is still funny, but now they care about fitting in with the other ass hole kids at school. They wear the same size shoe as the actual working adults in the home but have no jobs. Yet they always want stuff like a phone, the latest video game console and other techie stuff you may not know how to work. These kids are real little, actually more big than little shits. They don’t want your advice, despite the fact that you’ve been there, done that and have two t-shirts. They ask you for help with homework then argue you down over the help you offer. REALLY! WHAT ABOUT US? These kids aren’t cute and cuddly and you probably think the way they dress looks stupid in a WTH are you wearing type of way. Not the cute you want to wear rain boots with everything kind of way. They’re musty but aren’t interested in the deodorant their body clearly needs. Oh and you probably have to randomly check to make sure they actually bathed with soap and water. *SIGH* You love them, well you are supposed to love them, some days you are more sure of this love than others. What I do know is you damn sure don’t like them. What is there to like? They raise your blood pressure, because you buy more wine, speaking of buying they are eating you out of house and home. They leave you emotionally exhausted and force you to question your own mental capacity and ability to be a good parent. WHAT ABOUT US?


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WHERE IS OUR SUPPORT GROUP? Why aren’t people calling to check on us now? These kids now have boobs; your mere existence embarrasses them. Their hormones are on fleek, do the kids still say that? Their skin is changing and puberty is stupid but they don’t hear me though. Why aren’t people dropping off Target gift cards so I can feel better about myself while trying to raise a child that reminds me more of a jack ass. WHO MAKES SURE I DON’T GO APE SHIT?

My name is MimiCuteLips {My mother totally named me that; okay sorry Mommy, you didn’t.} and I am the parenting of an eleven-year-old male child. I love him, I’m pretty sure I do deep down in there somewhere past the #FATSNACKS but these days I’m not 100%. What I do know is that I don’t like him one bit. It is hard to find a redeeming quality yet we must both co-exist under the same roof. HOW SWAY?

I have no advice to give, matter fact you give me some advice. I’m all ears. For those in my shoes {they better be really cute shoes too} just know that you aren’t alone. Your kids aren’t the only ones driving you crazy. They all are, and if you have a male child like me perhaps a little more so than others. I feel your pain, and I am here for you. Stock up on ice cream, wine and Cinnabons, you know the desires of your heart and hang in there.

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 How does one survive such a stupidly necessary age of life? I just know {don’t chime in Mom} I was not like this at this age. I won’t hear of anything to the contrary.

Lifestyle Blogger MimiCuteLips wants to know WHERE ARE THE PARENTS OF ADOLESCENT KIDS SUPPORT GROUP- Do you know the struggles of parenting a tween-

How do you survive the 9 to 14 age range? If you had it easy, just lie to me. Make me feel better.  Chat with me in the comment below or FB, IG or Twitter.

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MimiCuteLips® started in 2010, it’s a place to come and share life experiences. Mimi is a lifestyle blogger, a mother of two, an Operations Manager by day, the business owner of From Mi To You and a naturalista. She blogs about life as she sees it, lives it, and loves it (or not)! The purpose of this blog is to share her voice. Like many others, she lives a life that requires her to wear multiple hats. From DIY projects, parenting, business adventures, love, travel recaps and more.

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  1. Alli

    I’ll lie to you and make you feel better. 🙂 Actually, my kids were pretty good, but I swear that hindsight is 20/20. When you get out of that stage and they grow up to be awesome adults, you tend to forget the times you wanted to give them up for adoption. Just kidding about the adoption. Kinda.

  2. T. Espinoza

    I really don’t want to laugh at your pain. Really. But this was written in a way that made me chuckle. Also, I have an 8 year old with a preteen attitude and a 5 year old with a violent streak so I know that this is in my not so distant future. I have no advice though so Imma just wait for some experienced wisdom-y types to chime in.

    • MimiCuteLips

      Girl, let me just say that you have your work cut out for you. I wrote it in a way that makes you laugh so you don’t cry. lls @ wisdom-y

  3. Carmen Perez (listen2mama)

    It’s not easy and kids these days seem to have an incredible social life. My daughter is now in 9th grade, and while she stays home a lot, some of her school mates have a social life on weekends that rivaled my social life in college? I just don’t understand why they have to constantly be out doing something and spending money?? IMO, it’s the parents’ fault.

    • MimiCuteLips

      Carmen kids are way different now for sure. I agree as parents we have created and fostered some really bad behaviors. I try to enjoy some of the simple joys in life. So far my kids are still okay with that. We don’t do big over the top birthdays every year but it makes them look forward to the milestone birthdays a little more.

      I knew then what I knew now I would not rush to be a grown up.

  4. Jennifer

    I have absolutely no advice. None. Probably because the teenagers I deal with at work suck the life out of me, and I want to slap their parents silly!

    • MimiCuteLips

      Ha Jennifer, I’m trying to get him together so he isn’t a problem at school. I can’t imagine dealing with teens all day, bless your heart.

  5. Jacqui

    I hear ya! My kids aren’t there yet, but I often think about the question: why did the ‘what to expect book’ stop after the toddler stage?!?!? Maybe YOU should start the group and write the book! Just dedicate it to me, please 🙂

  6. Tee

    My oldest is turning 8 so I’m right there with you. Fortunately, we’re not alone going through this stage of parenthood. I’m going to need a support group too! 🙂

  7. Alyssa @ The Plucky Introvert

    I bet my parents could have used a support group when I was a teenager! I wasn’t exactly the nicest person to be around for sure. Talk about mood swings. I feel bad!

    • MimiCuteLips

      Alyssa, its so different when it is us as a kid vs. us parenting a kid. We end up apologizing to our parents for all kinds of things we’ve done. lol

  8. Jelli

    Gosh, and I thought handling toddlers was tough. There probably are some moms even at your own child’s school that would be happy to meet up and have coffee and discuss the parenting dilemmas with you. I know that for me it’s always helpful to know that I’m not alone in my struggles- that all (or most) parents are going through the same things.

  9. Miles L.

    I think I get your point. We all need support when raising our kids. It really needs wisdom and experience.

    • MimiCuteLips

      Yes Miles, sometimes its nice to chat with folks who have been down that road or are going down that road. Just to remind us that we aren’t the only ones.

  10. Up Run for Life

    I wish I had an answer. 90% of kids today want everything handed to them. I have a daughter who is 19 now and she was more drama than my 15 year old son. It’s tough parenting teens. I’m no expert either. 🙁

  11. Franc Ramon

    I think different stages of childhood and adolescence is a different case for parenting. Adolescence need a little space for freedom yet still need the regular guidance when they are confused.

  12. Khloe

    I’ve been there. She’s now 16!
    She was full of attitude but just trying to understand them is key. I always say “be where they are!” And “do what they do!” So for me, she likes to write and text more than she like to talk so I did that with her. She would write me letters about why she was angry or what she was feeling and I responded in person for the most part.

    She’s also now on snapchat so we share a lot of it day through that medium. Forcing them to communicate with you not only “where” you want or “how ” you want it, in my opinion, doesn’t work. You have to have a happy medium and just understand that this phase in them will pass and even though you don’t like them, ykur love for them is unconditional and you have to just see them through.

  13. Michele D

    Going through the talking back stage now with my 10 year old. -And, I can’t stand it. I let him know, you can’t speak to others like that. Be kind to others and you’ll get that back in return. So far it’s “Kinda” working 🙂

  14. Chris Hoov

    I have two-year-old son, for sure I will feel what you feel right now. I wish I could help you or I could give you some advice.

  15. Dina

    I so agree! I have a 19, 13, and 10 year old. I feel this way every single day. It’s a tough ride but we’ll come out on the other side!

  16. Nikka Shae

    I love this!! As a parent of three teenagers I understand all of this!! Days I just want to runaway. My husband and I joke about this all the time!!!!

  17. Yaya

    I’m speechless. I don’t even know how to answer that question since i have zero children, but maybe with lots of wine and vodka.

  18. Susan Quackenbush

    When my two boys were in that age range, they were constantly at each others throats. It took lots of patience, grace, and understanding to get through it. I do agree, a support group would be nice! Perhaps you could start one and send us all invites? Lol! 🙂

  19. Jamila

    I’m not a parent yet, but I have a niece that just turned 2. Great post!

  20. Mar

    I’m not a parent, but your writing style made me laugh so hard. Teenagers and Preteens are hard to deal with, but they usually grow out of it!

  21. Francesca @onegrloneworld

    Haha, teenagers can be a bit difficult but the cool part is they become more independent and can do things on their own! It is weird how parents suddenly become “embarrassing” once you hit adolescence. I remember kind of feeling that way, even though I knew in the back of my mind that I had the coolest mom in the world. My friends would love coming over just so they could chat with her! It must be the hormones, they mess with our brains haha.

  22. Stacie

    Girl, I love my kids to the moon and back. I hate to tell you but it really doesn’t end. They become teenagers, then young adults. Then they have their own kids! Hang in there because there is hope, sis. At least one day they move out!

  23. Valerie Robinson

    This post is so on-point! Loved every phase and can relate to them all! I have a 9 year old that acts like a teen and is driving me nuts LOL! I really wish there were support groups in my area for moms. Will need to research that.

  24. Siobhan (BeFree Project)

    I have a 10 year old daughter and a 7 year old son. My daughter has her moments and sometimes I feel like I’m going to pull my hair out. But then she comes through and tells me how much she loves me and gives me a hug. Parenthood is no joke and that’s why I decided 2 is more than enough for me.

    Siobhan
    http://www.befreeproject.com

  25. Jay | Relaxed Thairapy

    I don’t have kids but oh my gosh, I’ve seen my nephew go through different phases. I stopped talking to him much during one period because I hated how he was treating his mother. I simply couldn’t stand it. He and I are back joined at the hip now because he’s matured.

  26. Sharifa

    I’m not a parent yet but this was hilarious. Makes me have a new found sympathy for my parents.

  27. Allison Jones

    LOL this is of funny! My sister and I often talk about how much we miss the sweet, innocent little girl that my niece used to be (she’s 15 now – so things have really changed lol).

    LiveLifeWell,
    Allison

  28. Jonna

    Well I guess this is the part that I lie and say my stepdaughter was terrible as a preteen. But she really was a breeze besides the slight attempt at an attitude during her period. I just reminded her only the person who pays the bills is allowed to have PMS so either go have a seat, take a nap, or get your feelings under control lol. I don’t know anything about boys!

  29. Jessica Simms

    I can only imagine what I put my parents through at this age, but as a mom of 4 with a 9 and 10-year-old I can feel your pain. My 9-year-old is a crazy kid for sure, he is annoyingly disobedient and makes me want a glass of wine every night. It’s hard and the attitudes only get worse I feel like, my 10-year-old is the totally opposite and my breath of fresh air. Totally obedient and always helpful, he does have his moments but those are outweighed by his MANY helpful loving actions. I feel you though! Keep pushing! LOL

    • MimiCuteLips

      Jessica sounds like you have your hands full. The good thing is we at least know what we are dealing with. My son has great moments but they are overshadowed by foolish most of the time.

  30. Holly

    I was a great kid at those ages. lol…but I don’t have any kids so I can’t really attest.

  31. Antoinette

    I identify with every part of this lol. My kids are teens now, and, yep, life is very interesting. I feel like atm/chauffeur.

  32. Anosa

    I do not mean to belittle you but I just had to chuckle throughout the post, I do not have kids yet but I am in for a shock thats a given.

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