Watch OWN’S Black Love Documentary, It Tugs At The Heart

Hey Cuties,

I’ve told y’all before that I’m a TV junkie. Like legit addicted to the tizzube. I watch a variety of TV, documentaries, movies, sitcoms, reality shows, ratchet TV you name it. What I have been adoring lately is the OWN: Black Love Documentary. They make you experience all of your emotions while watching.

Photo Credit: OWN

Black Love highlights love stories from the black community and seeks to answer the burning question, what is the secret to making a marriage work? Husband and wife filmmakers Codie and Tommy Oliver present real, honest, emotional and sometimes cringe worthy love stories from some of the most successful people in business and entertainment as well as everyday couples.  Featured couples include Oscar® winner Viola Davis and Julius Tennon, Hollywood power couple Meagan Good and DeVon Franklin, NAACP Image Award® winner Tia Mowry-Hardict and actor Cory Hardict, NAACP Image Award nominee Flex Alexander and Grammy® nominated recording artist Shanice, gospel singer Erica Campbell and music producer Warryn Campbell, NAACP Image Award nominee Vanessa Bell Calloway  and Dr. Anthony Calloway, and many more each offering a unique take on love.

Filmmakers Codie and Tommy Oliver (Photo Credit: IG @producertommy

It is a 4 part series, and each one is even better than the last.  These couples are everyday people as well as some of our favorite celebs. No one is immune to the struggles that come with building a relationship, working on a relationship and having a marriage. Don’t ever think it can’t be you… It is always easy for us to say what we won’t do when we aren’t faced with the situation.

I love, love. I’ve always been this way since I can remember. I don’t know when it started but I do. Oddly enough I don’t watch a ton of love stories, the Notebook just isn’t my cup of tea. However, I do enjoy a good documentary and I’ve watched plenty on some odd topics but this one hit home. Backstory: I fell in love at 16, and got married at 18 (judge your mother) and left my marriage at 22. I have no regrets, I don’t hate my ex-husband or anything. I am who I am and he had a hand in that. I’m amazing!

For two years I was single for the first time in my adult life and I was sewing my royal oats. That came to a crashing halt when I met Babe. I was 24 years old and well, in less than a month I will be 38 years old. We are not married but have been together almost 14 years.


Established in 2004 – Our first picture together

These couples vary in age and how long they’ve been married. From 3 years of marriage to 68 years of marriage.

Episode 1: Where Does Love Begin

“My husband was always special, in terms of his honesty, his sincerity, his compassion for other people.  Cute is good but only lasts for so long.  And then it’s like, who are you as a person? And that’s who I saw.” – Michelle Obama

It’s loving, like a movie-loving; you get the backstory on how these couples got together. You are feeling like OMG this is so sweet. I want this type of love and its real don’t get me wrong, but it feels very fairy tale like although all beginnings weren’t love at first sight.

Episode 2: Tripping Over Hurdles

You aren’t going to love everything about your mate. Yet you have to figure out how to coexist. You won’t agree on everything, yet you have children to raise. Once you get past the honeymoon phase now what. Respect has to be a top priority.

Episode 3: Fall Down
“Love does not begin and end the way you seem to think it does. Love is a battle, love is war, love is growing up.” – James Baldwin

Oh, the couples really get into the things that happen to break their marriage. Y’all these are earth-shattering things. Real things! It reminded me that struggling is natural and it will rear its head in your relationship at some point. It is up to you how you deal with it.  They let you all the way in and they share how it played out to where they are now.

Episode 4: Getting to Forever

Your marriage doesn’t start at I do, it starts when you look over and want to kill them. – Viola Davis.

What systems and or habits do you put in place to make sure you get your forever? Do you schedule sex or date night? Do you promise to put your spouse first and everyone else second? The couples talk about how they sure up their marriage. The great thing is they all have a different approach. Protecting your love and preserving your relationship is essential for growth. They have a couple that has been married 60+ years and they are so cute. Not perfect but yet they are.


I watched all of these on my own. Now Babe and I are watching together. We are going to be a better couple after watching together. I have my own takeaways but we will discuss as we watch.

filmmakers Codie and Tommy Oliver #BlackLoveDoc

Season 2 is on the way!

Watch OWN'S Black Love Documentary, It Tugs At The Heart #BlackLoveDoc

Have you watched it? What were your takeaways? Chat with me in the comments below or FBIG, and Twitter.

Article written by:

Mimi Green is the Lifestyle Media Correspondent and editor behind MimiCuteLips®. She is a mother of two and a girlfriend to one. You can find Mimi working media at your favorite events, traveling and trying out new adventures, or working on a dope DIY project.

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  1. Sheena Steward

    I LOVED this series!!! My and I would put away phones and fully commit to watching the show together. We’d often pause it and discuss something that happened. It was great to see black love on tv and it was so real. I can’t wait for season 2.

  2. Kemkem

    Hah! I love the story of you and your love. Just goes to show you one doesn’t really need a paper to cement the love. I also love the fact you don’t hate your ex. I always think it’s a good sign. After all, you saw something nice in them to begin with. They don’t show this over my way, but it sounds nice :-).

    • MimiCuteLips

      You know I keep it real, we were young and it wasn’t perfect but it wasn’t all bad. Like you said I picked him. I don’t do bitter, it doesn’t look good on me.

  3. Daria

    I’ve seen one episode and yes, I thoroughly enjoyed it. I need to check out the other episodes as well. I know it’s a tone of valuable information that I need to hear. The advice given is real and makes you evaluate your own relationship. I have also watched it on my own, but I do believe me and my fiance should be watching it together, when time permits. I’ve been married once and now I’m taking my time. Thanks for sharing!

    • MimiCuteLips

      I like that Daria, it is a ton of valuable information that is FREE. The minute I started watching I immediately began to evaluate my relationship. Taking it slow is good, especially the second time around.

  4. Stacie @ Divine Lifestyle

    That sounds like a great documentary! I love shows like this that highlight the real struggles of live and love.

  5. Vera Sweeney

    Relationships are work, and that doesn’t change no matter how long you’ve been together or what your station in life. Shows like this highlight that, and that’s why I love them so much. I’ll have to give this a look!

  6. Sarah Bailey

    Hands up I love a good TV programme as well and I have to say this is one I’ve not heard of, I wonder if we get it shown over here as well – I’ll have to go looking.

  7. Joanna @ Everyday Made Fresh

    I love documentations. This one sounds like a really good one. I haven’t seen the previews to it, and I watch OWN a lot.

  8. Sapphire Kharyzma

    BET never seems to disappoint! This looks like a pretty cool show. I will have to check it out!

  9. Jennifer Van Huss

    I have never heard of this show before! I don’t own cable, only Netflix. I hope they pick it up soon because it sounds like a great one!

  10. Jocelyn @ Hip Mama's Place

    Those are all very true. Marriage is a lot of work. It’s always nice to watch documentaries like this. You learn plenty of things about them, especially when it comes to relationships and life.

  11. Jacqui S

    I absolutely love this! Like you said I love love. I may have been divorced now for 12 years now, but I am a hopeless romantic when I comes to all things love! Thanks for sharing.

  12. Joely Smith

    LOL Loving Viola’s quote!!! I ADORE Michelle Obama and their marriage just seems to be beautiful! I know all relationships struggle however as a life coach for 2 decades I have heard it all. I am going to grab my hubby and sit down and watch this! I enjoy documentaries – just the way they are presented. Reality TV is not my thing nor are romance movies – what is the notebook? LOL seriously though, this is totally my thing! I too am a TV junkie, as is my husband, so we are on this!

  13. Tomi C

    I haven’t watched it yet. I may have to put it on my binge list for the weekend because I’m seeing great reviews of the series.

  14. Aisha

    This sounds like a great documentary. I am going to try and check it out. I love being married and it is not easy, but I am lucky to be married to someone who is as committed to me and this marriage, as I am to him and this marriage. I think that is foundation. Thanks for sharing.

  15. michele d

    I haven’t seen the series yet but it looks great! I think we all can relate when it comes to struggles in a relationship. Looking forward to watching it on the OWN network.

  16. Gingermommy

    This is a wonderful story! I haven’t seen the show yet but I am totally going to check it out. I love that you said you don’t hate your ex. Holding hate in your heart is such a negative thing.

  17. Kathy

    I have never heard of this show before. It does sound like a great show though. I’ll have to check it out sometime.

  18. Jessica Terry

    I haven’t seen this documentary yet but I am totally going to have to check it out now.

  19. Nancy at Whispered Inspirations

    Beautiful story! I love learning about couples road to falling in love. I am going to have to check this show out.

  20. Joyce Brewer

    Thanks for the reminder to catch up on this series. I’ve seen the promos, but I keep missing it live. Thank goodness for DVR.

  21. Michelle waller

    Thank you for sharing your story. I think this is something that everyone could benefit from watching.

  22. Tiffany H.

    I’ve only seen the first episode but I went to the premier and I really enjoyed the panel discussion. Ill be doing mt blog post soon. Do you think you will get married? Why or why not?

    • MimiCuteLips

      Oh wow, I would have loved to attend the premier. I bet that was incredible.
      We might get married, we just hadn’t made it a priority or a goal. We aren’t anti marriage

  23. Wendy Polisi

    I don’t usually watch romnace style movies either. However, this is real and raw which is what I prefer!

    • MimiCuteLips

      Exactly Wendy. There is something about seeing someone who is real and has the same issues as me. This isn’t scripted and it isn’t perfect.

  24. Ty

    Silly me! Why did I think this was only one episode and not a series? I loved the first one and now I have to go try to catch the other ones.

  25. Candice Straughter

    I haven’t seen it yet, but me and the hubbis love talking about marriage, our relationship and our goals. What I love the most about marriage is building a legacy. My parents have been married 43 years, my in-laws have been married 25 years and me and the hubbs are on 15 yrs. It’s like it’s so hard to imagine what life was like before him now. I love how you broke down all the episodes, I SOOOO want to see this but I don’t have OWN 🙁 I dropped cable a few years ago and do basic with streaming apps. Waaaaa!!! 😢

    • MimiCuteLips

      OMG Candice, this would be perfect for you guys. That is awesome, my in laws have been married for 40+ years and I love that. The couple that has been married for 68 years was so freaking incredible.

  26. Carissa

    I love this documentary!!! My husband and I have been watching together and it’s asks great questions and it does let you see no matter if they’re a celebrity or not they face the same situations we do!! And more power to you and your honey…I always say do what’s best for you it’s your relationship no one else’s!!!

  27. Kasi

    This seems like a really great series! I have seen so many people posting about this, I will have to check it out when I get a chance.

  28. Kiwi

    I didnt realize you and your Babe werent married. Also you got married young but at least you got out of it early enough hey it was a learning lesson for you. I want to watch this series I just havent had the time due to traveling but I will. I want my own Black Love story, speaking it into existence.

  29. Shannon Gurnee

    I’ve never heard of this before, but I would definitely check it out. Thanks for sharing.

  30. Kim

    I have yet to watch Black Love, but I love that Viola Davis quote. I think that’s true. If you can get past wanting to kill them and still love them the next hour or day, that is it lol

    My friends, Khadeen and Devale were featured on there.

    • MimiCuteLips

      Right, Kim. When she said that I wanted to high five my TV screen. She is right, because I’m so mad at you I could kill you. Yet I won’t because I love you so much. lol

      So dope!

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