I’ve told y’all before that I’m a TV junkie. Like legit addicted to the tizzube. I watch a variety of TV, documentaries, movies, sitcoms, reality shows, ratchet TV you name it. What I have been adoring lately is the OWN: Black Love Documentary. They make you experience all of your emotions while watching.
Black Love highlights love stories from the black community and seeks to answer the burning question, what is the secret to making a marriage work? Husband and wife filmmakers Codie and Tommy Oliver present real, honest, emotional and sometimes cringe worthy love stories from some of the most successful people in business and entertainment as well as everyday couples. Featured couples include Oscar® winner Viola Davis and Julius Tennon, Hollywood power couple Meagan Good and DeVon Franklin, NAACP Image Award® winner Tia Mowry-Hardict and actor Cory Hardict, NAACP Image Award nominee Flex Alexander and Grammy® nominated recording artist Shanice, gospel singer Erica Campbell and music producer Warryn Campbell, NAACP Image Award nominee Vanessa Bell Calloway and Dr. Anthony Calloway, and many more each offering a unique take on love.
It is a 4 part series, and each one is even better than the last. These couples are everyday people as well as some of our favorite celebs. No one is immune to the struggles that come with building a relationship, working on a relationship and having a marriage. Don’t ever think it can’t be you… It is always easy for us to say what we won’t do when we aren’t faced with the situation.
I love, love. I’ve always been this way since I can remember. I don’t know when it started but I do. Oddly enough I don’t watch a ton of love stories, the Notebook just isn’t my cup of tea. However, I do enjoy a good documentary and I’ve watched plenty on some odd topics but this one hit home. Backstory: I fell in love at 16, and got married at 18 (judge your mother) and left my marriage at 22. I have no regrets, I don’t hate my ex-husband or anything. I am who I am and he had a hand in that. I’m amazing!
For two years I was single for the first time in my adult life and I was sewing my royal oats. That came to a crashing halt when I met Babe. I was 24 years old and well, in less than a month I will be 38 years old. We are not married but have been together almost 14 years.
These couples vary in age and how long they’ve been married. From 3 years of marriage to 68 years of marriage.
Episode 1: Where Does Love Begin
“My husband was always special, in terms of his honesty, his sincerity, his compassion for other people. Cute is good but only lasts for so long. And then it’s like, who are you as a person? And that’s who I saw.” – Michelle Obama
It’s loving, like a movie-loving; you get the backstory on how these couples got together. You are feeling like OMG this is so sweet. I want this type of love and its real don’t get me wrong, but it feels very fairy tale like although all beginnings weren’t love at first sight.
Episode 2: Tripping Over Hurdles
You aren’t going to love everything about your mate. Yet you have to figure out how to coexist. You won’t agree on everything, yet you have children to raise. Once you get past the honeymoon phase now what. Respect has to be a top priority.
Episode 3: Fall Down
“Love does not begin and end the way you seem to think it does. Love is a battle, love is war, love is growing up.” – James Baldwin
Oh, the couples really get into the things that happen to break their marriage. Y’all these are earth-shattering things. Real things! It reminded me that struggling is natural and it will rear its head in your relationship at some point. It is up to you how you deal with it. They let you all the way in and they share how it played out to where they are now.
Episode 4: Getting to Forever
Your marriage doesn’t start at I do, it starts when you look over and want to kill them. – Viola Davis.
What systems and or habits do you put in place to make sure you get your forever? Do you schedule sex or date night? Do you promise to put your spouse first and everyone else second? The couples talk about how they sure up their marriage. The great thing is they all have a different approach. Protecting your love and preserving your relationship is essential for growth. They have a couple that has been married 60+ years and they are so cute. Not perfect but yet they are.
I watched all of these on my own. Now Babe and I are watching together. We are going to be a better couple after watching together. I have my own takeaways but we will discuss as we watch.
Season 2 is on the way!