Most of us in the parenting game are in our back to school mode. Some states are back in session and the rest of us are getting ready to return after Labor Day. That means we have about three weeks left to get it in. Whatever that means…
Although we have three weeks we can’t wait until the last minute to get things together. We’ve already purchased school uniforms, that makes the back to school rather uneventful for us. LittleCuteLips has the same uniform as last year, we just need bigger sizes. The Man-Child is headed to High School so his uniform colors have changed. Nevertheless, they wear black shoes and they have last years book bags. Done and done!
This morning on Good Morning Washington we discussed balancing the parent, teacher relationship. I am nine years into the school game so I have the parent-teacher relationship down.
5 Tips for Maintaining the Parents Teacher Relationship
Tip #1: Be engaged
Attend the back to school night or orientation. Introduce yourself to the teacher and let them know what child belongs to you. This lets them know that someone is checking for this child on a regular basis. Read: Don’t treat them any kind of way because I’m involved, and I don’t mind showing up.
Tip #2: Establish Expectations
After introducing yourself give them your email address and let them know that they can communicate with you at any time. Ask for their email address [asking for a cell number is a bit forward. Don’t ask if they don’t suggest it.] Let them know that in order for your child to be their best the three [child+teacher+parent] of you have to be a team.
Tip #3: Volunteer
This goes beyond tip #1. Don’t only show up at the beginning of the year or only in their inbox. Actually, show up in other ways. Chaperone a field trip. Donate a case of water to the football team. Read a book at story time. Work the book fair. Bring in treats [Halloween, Christmas, Valentine’s Day, Easter, etc.]
Tip #4: Don’t be a jerk parent
Don’t only reach out to the teacher when you feel your child has been wronged in some way. Don’t only email the teacher with complaints. Don’t only show up at the school pissed off about something. Don’t think your cute child won’t tell you a bold face lie. Don’t be so quick to pop off. See tip #2
Tip #5: Empower your children
Don’t be so quick to get involved. Teach your children how to manage some of their issues and or concerns. They need to learn to be effective communicators, this is a great time to teach them. Ask them questions, make them think before you jump in to solve or handle the situation. If they have new ideas encourage them to share them with the teacher. They might surprise you.
Watch the segment and see what other tips we gave. One of the Mom’s on the panel is also a teacher.