5 Things You Need To Know For A Healthy Parent Teacher Relationship

Hey Cuties,

Most of us in the parenting game are in our back to school mode. Some states are back in session and the rest of us are getting ready to return after Labor Day. That means we have about three weeks left to get it in. Whatever that means…

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Although we have three weeks we can’t wait until the last minute to get things together. We’ve already purchased school uniforms, that makes the back to school rather uneventful for us. LittleCuteLips has the same uniform as last year, we just need bigger sizes. The Man-Child is headed to High School so his uniform colors have changed. Nevertheless, they wear black shoes and they have last years book bags. Done and done!

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L to R: Eileen – Charlotte – Sarah – MimiCuteLips

This morning on Good Morning Washington we discussed balancing the parent, teacher relationship. I am nine years into the school game so I have the parent-teacher relationship down.

5 Tips for Maintaining the Parents Teacher Relationship

Tip #1: Be engaged

Attend the back to school night or orientation. Introduce yourself to the teacher and let them know what child belongs to you. This lets them know that someone is checking for this child on a regular basis. Read: Don’t treat them any kind of way because I’m involved, and I don’t mind showing up.

Tip #2: Establish Expectations

After introducing yourself give them your email address and let them know that they can communicate with you at any time. Ask for their email address [asking for a cell number is a bit forward. Don’t ask if they don’t suggest it.] Let them know that in order for your child to be their best the three [child+teacher+parent] of you have to be a team.

Tip #3: Volunteer

This goes beyond tip #1. Don’t only show up at the beginning of the year or only in their inbox. Actually, show up in other ways. Chaperone a field trip. Donate a case of water to the football team. Read a book at story time. Work the book fair. Bring in treats [Halloween, Christmas, Valentine’s Day, Easter, etc.]

Tip #4: Don’t be a jerk parent

Don’t only reach out to the teacher when you feel your child has been wronged in some way. Don’t only email the teacher with complaints. Don’t only show up at the school pissed off about something. Don’t think your cute child won’t tell you a bold face lie. Don’t be so quick to pop off.  See tip #2

Tip #5: Empower your children

Don’t be so quick to get involved. Teach your children how to manage some of their issues and or concerns. They need to learn to be effective communicators, this is a great time to teach them. Ask them questions, make them think before you jump in to solve or handle the situation.  If they have new ideas encourage them to share them with the teacher. They might surprise you.

Watch the segment and see what other tips we gave. One of the Mom’s on the panel is also a teacher.

Adjust your strategy based on your kid’s age and development level. My approach with the 6-year-old is much different than my approach with my teen. Growing up, I had some amazing teachers that I remember to this day. I also had some teachers that I never saw eye to eye with. All of them had a hand in my education and the lessons I learned.

The Good Morning Washington Mommas discuss how to have a healthy parent teacher relationship. What to do, and not do during the school year.

What has your experience been like? What was your experience as a student? Chat with me in the comments below or FBIG, and Twitter.


Article written by:

Mimi Robinson is the Lifestyle Media Correspondent and editor behind MimiCuteLips®. She is a wife and mother of two. You can find Mimi working media at your favorite events, traveling and trying out new adventures, or working on a dope DIY project.

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  1. Sheena Steward

    These are all great tips to help cultivate healthy parent/teacher relationship. I loved the video and agree with what you said about email communication and even the app. But the lady with 7 kids. I’ll say a prayer for her during this school year lol.

  2. Antoinette Cain

    I also maintain contact with my kids’ teachers via email. It’s so important to establish a relationship. I believe that it makes the kiddos feel good to know that their parents have an interest in their education.

  3. Kin

    These are great tips. I agree that volunteering helps a lot. I have been the class parent and class parent coordinator as well as PTA President. Being a present parents makes a world of a difference

  4. Stacie Branson

    Now this is helpful. I’m not a jerk parent but I will go to bat for my kids. When I do, I see things change so it must be working.

    • MimiCuteLips

      Yes, you should advocate for your children for sure. Just make sure you don’t only reach out to them when you aren’t in agreement.

  5. Elle

    I think you hit the nail on the head when you advised “don’t be a jerk parent.” Often those rattled kids act just like their rattled parents.

    • MimiCuteLips

      Yes! Then you never come to a resolve because you know your parents are simply going to get “buck” with the teacher either way.

  6. EG III

    Great tips. I think most important is being engaged. I can recall how terrible I was as a student and, in hindsight, I believe I was just acting out in order to get the attention of my parents.

  7. Ola

    I think it’s great that they do segments like this. Some moms and dads just don’t consider taking such steps at the beginning of the school year.

  8. Joanna

    These are great tips. My mom was a teacher and when we got older she became involved in my little sister’s PTA team. It’s a lot of work, but when you establish a good relationship early on, it helps. Some parents aren’t involved at all and it is kind of sad. Teachers invest so much in your children’s lives.

    • MimiCuteLips

      Joanna, I was shocked when I saw how parents just did not care. I still don’t get it, but I do try to celebrate other kids while I celebrate my own. It is sad to see them in tears because their parents could not or did not show.

  9. Jonna

    Lawd I’m so not ready for this but these are great tips. I’m already telling myself don’t be THAT parent. With my step daughter I took a backseat to what her parents wanted but now…I will be all over it!

  10. Nanekia Ansari

    Love this! Taking it a step farther one of my tips was to make sure you engage with the people in the school’s office they are just as important as the teachers.

    • MimiCuteLips

      Yes! I totally agree. I believe in speaking to everyone. The Elementary Secretary has held us down over the years, we love her.

  11. Tanay Michele

    We’re only going into pre-k but these are great tips and so important! Fingers crossed for good cooperative teachers this year!

  12. Kiwi

    I love when you make it on Good Morning Washington go girl! Great tips especially for back to school season it is important for parents to have a relationship with the teachers too!

  13. Tomiko Harvey

    girl, school has only been in two weeks and I already had to be ugly but it was with the cheer coach. I lost my cool and showed my behind. hopefully, we can move past this but I was not a happy camper.

    • MimiCuteLips

      Girl! Relationships with the coaches and administrative professionals all count. Sometimes it is tough, but you have to establish boundaries early on.

  14. Leslie

    Yes, letting the teacher know there is someone at home who is engaged is so important.

  15. Tiffany Haywood

    Really great tips Mimi!! I just had my oldest daughter’s Middle School Open House last night (I’m still in denial) and the first thing I did was let the teachers know I want to be in the loop. I think sometimes they hesitate to reach out but I am definitely an involved mom. I also signed up for the PTA – I think being involved is key to staying aware of how your child is involved at school.

    • MimiCuteLips

      You are on it, being involved is the best way for sure. You know exactly what is going on in all areas. I will be joining the PTA at both schools.

  16. Kita

    These are great tips especially the one about letting kids manage what’s happening. A great way to get them started on being their own advocates. I actually became room mom and joined the school board so that I would always be involved.

  17. Carissa Godbott

    These are great tips! I am the volunteer parent and the one that stays in constant communication. I want to hear the good and bad, so I make sure to stay in contact often!

  18. Elle

    Tip #5: Empower your children is spot on. I love how you advice parents, “Don’t be so quick to get involved.” This is a lesson that we have to learn so our kids will be equipped with how to handle themselves when we aren’t around.

  19. Terri

    My husband and I talk frequently about being involved parents once our son starts school. And I’m glad you mentioned not asking for a cell number. Even when people offer their personal number for these types of things, I try my best not to utilize it unless necessary.

    • MimiCuteLips

      I think teachers needs to establish boundaries and personal numbers should be a part of that. Kudos to you guys for have the conversation.

  20. Kasi

    These are some great back to school tips for parents. I always enjoy watching your TV segments!

  21. Magnifique

    Reminds me of back in the days lol I don’t have kids yet but I will share with my sister and I like the tip number 5.

    • MimiCuteLips

      Thanks, I appreciate that. Yes, we need to teach our children how to manage their own life with our guidance. I want my children to be independent.

  22. Fekara @ School Management Software

    I love the way you describe the topic, thank for this highly helpful article.

    Best Regards

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